I do not think I have really ever shared the story of “hacienda filthy” with you all. Hacienda Filthy is our home sweet home. No, not because we are filthy people … but because when we bought this home 5 and a half years ago it was a MAJOR fixer upper.
Just about 8 weeks pregnant with our Wylder James, when we found ourselves embarking on our first major purchase together, as a family, as husband and wife. Have you ever heard that statement, if I only knew back then what I know now? WOW, understatement of the century!
I must first start by saying we love our home, we really do. It is a little bungalow in the middle of the desert surrounded by a great piece of property and wonderful neighbors. It is peaceful and quiet.
After a slew of negotiations and Steven’s uncle navigating the real estate rig-a-meran, there was no doubt the home was destined to be ours.
That being said, when we signed on the dotted line for her in the fall of 2008 she was nearly uninhabitable, no kidding! The pictures do not do her justice, they just make her look older, but not to dirty. The pictures below do not do he So we got to work right away. We did not move in for about 6 weeks … we hit the decks running and started renovating. Knocking down walls, repainting throughout, refinished the brick, new tile to replace the indoor outdoor carpeting and original laminate flooring and bug bombs, yes, I said bug bombs. Well you get the picture. When “round one of renovation” was complete we moved in to our new house, that now claimed the nickname hacienda filthy, that housed only a single small sofa in the great room and our master bedroom furniture. We hosted our first thanksgiving at the house just 4 days after moving in on cardboard boxes. It sounds re-donkulous … but it was dreamy. As my belly continued to grow with Wylder James we just kept whistling while we worked. Re-stuccoing and painting the outside, and tacking the ever so green and non functioning pool with dreams of our future little one learning to swim in it.
Within a year of purchase, we realized we had quite frankly bit off more than we could chew, but we were all in it together, plugging away.
Then came that fateful January day when we got Wylder’s diagnosis. Everything for hacienda filthy was officially on hold. It didn’t matter anymore. Those dreams of renovated kitchens and baths were a thing of the past and all of a sudden our laminate and cultured marble counter tops and old stain glass windows, didn’t matter to us. Our priorities shifted.
Now if someone only could have told the house that. A 1981 fixer upper is bound to come with her fair share of issues, but broken dishwashers, electrical issues, and AC units on their last limb had us not only maxing out at our personal tipping points, we were also maxed out financially with medical bills and in what sometime felt like a sinking ship. We prayed. Oh did we pray. And He answered. We made it through with help from people brought into our lives, perseverance, and a very hard working husband. We stayed afloat, and even better, we made the most incredible memories in our home that we will hold in our hearts forever. We love you Hacienda Filthy.
When we realized as a family that beach living was not in our near future as Wylder Nation Foundation became a top priority in our lives we decided to stay in our home after Wylder passed. This was not a decision that came to lightly, but for now we feel it is the right decision. So starting this spring (2013) we started doing some more renovations … this time on our own. This time instead of helping along subcontractors we tacked projects completely on our own, and on a budget. It has been very fulfilling to do together. We have refinished our bath, laundry and kitchen cabinets, replaced out interior doors and put new counter tops and sinks in the baths. They may not be perfect , but they were done on a budget and are certainly a labor of love. Our perspectives are so different now; we love our sweet and quaint little kitchen and have no dreams of blasting the whole thing out 6 feet. We love and long for simplicity. True simplicity. We simply want our house to feel like a home, and to be full of love with now bump #2 growing so quickly.
We are also tackling our all dirt desert yard. Just this weekend we were laughing because we think we are the only family crazy enough to start a big projects just as baby is about to arrive, but it is a flashback to bringing home Wylder James, so it makes us smile.
But our yard is now beginning to feel like a mini sanctuary, thanks in large part to some assistance from my momma. We are currently thinking of a tribute to Wylder to put in this new little corner of the yard, right by the grass. I always wanted grass in our yard so I could lay in it with Wylder, and now we will have some. We can’t wait to use and enjoy our yard for the first time really, after 5 years in this house. I will lay in that grass with Bruiser and look up at the clouds changing shape and tell him all about his big brother. It will certainly continue to be a work in progress, and a long list of honey do’s, but we are grateful and at peace. This is our family’s home.
We had dream back in 2008 of raising all our children in this home …. Now what is means to me is so different. If you said I had to move tomorrow I would, and I would take every memory with us in our heart. If you said we were going to live here another 5 years, I will cherish how Bruiser will take his first step in a place where is brother laughed for the first time … and something tells me I won’t look back at my cabinet colors for one minute. As we prepare to bring baby #2 home to the same home Wylder came home to , my cup simply runith over. When we pull down our cul-de-sac for the first time with Bruiser snuggled in his car seat, just like his big brother was, I will certainly cry. And I will certainly be so thankful that the Lord made it all possible.
Hacienda Filthy, thank you for the memories.
Wylder, thank you for making our house our home. Thank you for every memory. Thank you for blessing us with your little Brother who will soon share your rooms with you. You are so loved and so missed. See you in our dreams and all around hacienda filthy forever and always.
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