How Steven and I are “taking care” of ourselves and each other these days. When you go through times of such stress in your life, it is important to put yourself first and take care of one another. Lately it seems extra important so we have been focusing quite a bit on this. Although very time consuming … very much worth it.
EXCERSIZE. Our Arizona weather is still not permitting a lot of outside activity, but the nights are at least cooling down a bit. So Steven and I are trying to take some time to unwind by taking some evening walks. I am a HUGE yoga fan, but have found it to be too emotionally taxing these days so have looked into some different exercise classes. Karate seemed like an appealing option to me, as well as a class called pure barre … but after a bit of research I am realizing it it quite expensive to be in classes regularly. So for now I am enjoying daytime walks with neighbors, swimming and waiting for the weather to cool down so I can hit up pinnacle peak mountain again.
While Steven is out and about at work during the week I try to break from my household chores and new WN computer and art projects and get out of the house at least once during the day. I have lunch/Starbucks dates with gal pals (or my momma) or sometimes head to friends houses and play with their kids. I have always loved the energy of surrounding myself with kiddos, so it brings me great joy. I also have a GREAT friend that has even offered to run day to day errands with me, which I often take her up on … and we always have a marvelous time. We have even descided we are going to take some gardening classes together down the road. I am so grateful for such wonderful friends and laughter.
Steven and I continue to see our therapist both together and separately. I divulge this information as I think it is SO important to share with other families going through crisis. Life “stuff” is often BIGGER than we are, and it important to realize that. We don’t at all think it is something to be ashamed of, but rather think all families dealing with exponencial stress should take the time to do this. Someday one of us might throw out an “arg!” that we have to go … but then we are ALWAYS presently surprised how much better we feel after we leave.
Physiatrist. Yep, we see one of those too. What is the difference? MEDS! Yep, this one prescribes meds. I never have thought of myself as much of a medicine taker, but I have learned you have to listen to what your body is going through and respond accordingly. The stress of extra anxiously or panic attacks is much more harmful to yourself than a temporary fix that meds can provide. As important as Steven and I feel that it is, to feel the emotions we are supposed to and go through this “process” … we also have come to recognize the brain is a VERY powerful thing. We want to manage, as best we can.
We really have thoroughly enjoyed meeting with friends for dinner at least one time a week. It is so wonderful to catch up and see what is happening in their lives and good for us to get out of the house. I also have a real LOVE for food, and have been LOVING trying new restaurants so I can find a new recipe to try and duplicate home.
We have also taken ourselves to the doctor. Although, it feels like we have spent more hours in doctors offices than we can stand …. we realize it was always for our WARRIOR. We need to honor ourselves and do the same ourselves. So physicals, dentist appointments etc. If Wylder can do all he did, we can take an hour out of our day and get checked out, get labs etc. We both realized after going, how long it has really been since we have gone for ourselves.
And most importantly we are communicating with one another. Even if it ends with an agree to disagree … knowing how the other person is feeling and what they need is important right now. Making long term goals and short term goals, not matter how “silly” they seem (both individually and together). This is never a to do – to done project, but it is nice to talk and dream together (even if our dreams differ from time to time).
Told you we have been busy. We truly feel that one of the best things we can do for ourselves and each other right now is to take care. It is often hard, but so very important. I share this so it will hopefully help many of you to do the same (especially those of you with children with Niemann Pick A). xxoo